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You think you can’t let go of your ex, but what you really can’t let go of is the version of yourself who gave it your all.

Jul 23, 2026

You think you can’t let go of your ex. But most of the time, it’s not them you’re grieving. It’s the version of you who stayed too long, loved too hard, explained too much, forgave too many things you should’ve never had to forgive. As a tarot reader, I see this pattern constantly. People come in asking, “Are they coming back?” But the real question underneath is usually: “Was the love I gave real? Did it mean anything?” And that’s the part that hurts. Because when someone leaves, betrays you, or turns cold, it can feel like they took your softness with them. Your hope. Your effort. Your ability to believe. So you keep looking back, not always because you want them, but because you miss the self who could love without armor. That’s why letting go feels impossible. You’re not just releasing a person. You’re mourning an identity. But here’s the sharp truth: if giving your all destroyed you, then it wasn’t love keeping you there. It was attachment, projection, and the fantasy that one more try would finally make the pain make sense. Your ex is not the portal back to your old self. Healing is. If this hit, feel free to discuss and like. And if you want a deeper reading on your connection, your attachment, or what this breakup is really here to teach you, find me for a reading.